Men do not want to marry single mothers – Joselyn Dumas
Actress and TV host, Joselyn Dumas
Actress and TV host Joselyn Dumas has been candid about the challenges single moms encounter when attempting to reenter the dating scene.
Joselyn Dumas related a friend of hers who expressed reluctance to marry a child-bearing woman because he did not want to be the father of a child who was not his biological child.
She argued that the fact that many single women choose not to marry is partly due to the prejudices they encounter as parents.
“Let me tell you why we don’t go out and marry. I spoke to a friend of mine here, Anthony. He said, ‘Me, I will never be with a born one’.
“His reason was, ‘Why would I come and raise somebody else’s child? That’s not my bloodline. He doesn’t have any trace of my DNA in him. Why am I going to now help someone’s bloodline grow? What about mine?’
“And I said to myself that this is the reason why a lot of single mothers are single with their children,” he said.
The actress also criticised the differences in viewpoints regarding adoption, contending that there should be no distinction made in how one views raising a child who is not biologically theirs.
“I asked him, ‘What about adoption?’ And he said that’s different. But if you ask me, it’s not that different,” she said.
She made it clear that single moms usually choose to raise their kids alone out of sacrifice and necessity rather than a desire for a solitary life.
“You can raise the child on your own. It’s a sacrifice you’ve also made as a woman. Regardless of what it is, you are going to have this child and you’re going to raise this child. It’s not because we want to be single,” she said.
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